Sunday, February 22, 2009

Brahmin Blue and Golden Lace


A few weeks ago, I planned a trip to Jodhpur and Jaisalmer, along with four friends from work - Jen, Carla, Jon, and Sherry.  It was a little crazy planning this junket, along with Mom, Dad, Paul & Mary's trip the upcoming week, but it was well worth it.  I have been meaning to get to these two last bastions of Rajasthan, and just hadn't gotten around to making the journey.

We set off on Friday evening - Sleeper Class from Delhi to Jodhpur.  I was freaked out that the train ride wouldn't be comfortable, since Sleeper Class is the least expensive ticket you can get for an overnight berth.  Even though the rest of the group had been in India less than a month, they rolled with it, and it all worked out just fine in the end.  Our biggest challenge was sleeping through the stereophonic snoring from the husband and wife pair who were our berth-mates.  Add to the list of Sleeper Class essentials - earplugs and a beanie.

Jodhpur is a quiet little town, just busy enough to be considered bustling, but not so big and chaotic that it exhausts you in the first five minutes.  It's known as the Blue City, for the homes in the old quarter which are painted a frosty, cornflower blue, known as "brahmin blue" for the high-caste intellectual families that used to occupy that part of the city.  The skyline is dominated by Mehranghar Fort, which boasts the only audio tour I've seen in India.  We also visited the Jaswant Thada, which was the family cenotaph of the maharaja.  Most Hindus consider these cremation sites both sacred and dirty, but they are unrelentingly beautiful.  The white marble, with arching blue sky and puffy white clouds overhead, makes quite the vista. On the way into the fort, there are red sati marks, handprints of the maharaja's widows as they left the palace for the last time to throw themselves on their husband's funeral pyre.  I cannot imagine the amount of commitment and devotion that would have enabled women to do that.  It makes me angry and deeply respectful at the same time.

We toured the local sites in Jodhpur and had a great stay at Pal Haveli, before saddling up for the 5 hour drive to Jaisalmer on Sunday.  Our objective was to arrive in time to catch a camel ride and see the sunset over the Sam desert, which, thanks to our driver Mr. Singh, we did.  We saddled up on five camels with a set of really unlikely names, ranging from Michael Jackson (mine) to Bubbles.  Just at the fringes of the desert, the dunes we clambered over were not extensive, but they were beautiful.  There were quite a few Indian tourists clumped together on the highest dunes to watch the sun settle into a dull orange glow below the horizon, which always makes me feel better; it's far worse when we arrive somewhere that's crawling with Americans or European - not because they're so horrible, but because it always makes me feel like I suffer from a stunning lack of originality.  In any case, we celebrated the sunset with a camel race back to camp, which brings new meaning to the phrase "slap-happy" but was really fun, regardless.

Back in Jaisalmer, we had a nice dinner at our hotel, Nachana Haveli, and were treated to a Rajasthani puppet show by a man with a 6 meter moustache, which he kept wrapped around his ears, believe it or not...cool or creepy - you be the judge.    We hit the hay early, tired out from lots of drive time and our camel-safari shenanigans.  The haveli was lovely - nicely restored with quaint, stone-block rooms and canopied beds, and a lovely fountain in the courtyard.  Sometimes hertiage hotels are a mixed blessing, but this one was pretty much all blessings and a great place to stay outside of the fort area.

On Monday, we got up as early as we could (nine-ish) and headed to Jaisalmer Fort and to see some of  the famous havelis in town.  After unrelenting red sandstone in Delhi, Agra and much of Rajasthan, Jaisalmer presents a complete shift in palette.  The lovely rich red is replaced with a crystalline golden stone that makes the whole place look as though it were someone's sandcastle.  The buildings and temples within the fort walls are some of the most intricately carved work that I've seen in India.  We were fortunate to have a local Brahmin man as our guide and, being a resident of the fort himself, he gave us a great overview of the various cultures and religions that are still housed within the walls.  After exploring the fort, we allowed ourselves to be lured by his sales pitch and went with him to his shop to buy some authentic Rajasthani patchwork.  I'm sure we taken, somewhat, but I don't think we got taken too badly.  And, it was a fun experience in any case.  It's amazing to see modern businesses housed within these buildings that are hundreds of years old.  

We topped off our visit to Jaisalmer with a stop at the only government-approved bhang shop.  Carla's friend from Hyderabad asked her to pick up four "liquor-filled" cookies -- imagine her surprise when I told her that the cookies were herbal in nature!  But, with the cookies and an authorization certificate in hand, we were soon on our way back to Jodhpur to grab dinner and catch our train back to Delhi.  By this time, we were sure that we were Sleeper Class pros.  Besides, how could we do much worse than the stereophonic snoring from the outward bound journey?  Oh ho ho... but you should never underestimate India's ability to top itself.  Our train ride back went fine and everyone made it, and everone even slept.  However, we were serenaded by the most robust chorus of snoreers that I can only call it a cacphony.  They were in our compartment, to either side and down the car from us.   A great lesson in mind over matter and a really funny way to end a great trip to Jaisalmer and Jodhpur.  My one regret is that we didn't get to see the Jain temples that are just off the driving route between Jaisalmer and Jodhpur.  It was on the program, but got lost somewhere between the mad dash to the camels and the mad dash back to the train.  Oh well - I have to leave some of the low hanging fruit, or what will I see the next time I come back?

Friday, January 23, 2009

The Wedding Wrap



Marriage season has begun, and let's just say that I am going to have to get a lot better at wrapping a sari.  Veni, one of the girls on my team, and her fiancee, Suhel tied the knot last Sunday, to much fanfare, photo-taking, and bell-ringing.  Theirs was the first in a pretty busy wedding season for my team.  We have no less than four couples getting married this month and next.  My Indian-couture-related stress has skyrocketed, but it is so much fun to be included in these family events.  I am honored, truly.

My maiden sari voyage was ruled a qualified success by the ladies.  I apparently need to work on my pleats some an the tightness of the wrap, but not too bad for a foreigner on a first outing.  In typical Mackh fashion, I was running horribly late, and so only had time for 2 false starts before I had to pin it all up and just go with it.  Sari's are surprisingly comfortable and warm.  I have a lot of work to do before I make it look as elegant as it should, but I'm motivated to try, for sure.

Veni was a beautiful bride in a traditional lehenga and Punjabi wedding trim.  We stayed through the first few hours of ceremonies and dinner, but the actual formalities did not occur until the wee hours of the morning.  This type of wedding is more a marathon than a sprint, and not for the faint-hearted.   Veni and Suhel seemed to take it all in stride, which I'm sure bodes well for the future.  It was an honor to be included - "Shadee mubharak ho!"

Thursday, January 08, 2009

Missing Jody


One of the saddest things about the holidays for me, was that I found out one of my colleagues and roommates, Jody Stiely, passed away a few days after Christmas.  Our expat family is a small one, and I have been so blessed in the amazing people who I've had the opportunity to live with and travel with over the past year.  Even among them, Jody was a bright light.

Bubbly, adventurous, full of ideas, energy, and creativity, Jody had a way of filling the space around her with excitement and fun.  At the same time, she was incredibly intuitive and thoughtful, and always looked out for her buddies, in every sense.  I simply cannot believe that someone so alive is now gone. I know I, and many others who loved her, will carry a piece of her with us forever and we'll be the better for it.

We tromped through the warren of old Delhi to buy stones for a jeweler friend and nosh on chicken Noorjahani at Karim's.  We picked out pillows in Lagpat Nagar that we loved, and Danny hated, of course.  We tried on sarees and salwar suits and strings of pearls.  We clambered over the kamasutra-carved temples of Khajuraho, and wended our way through the palace and cenotaphs at Orchha.  Jody saved all of her food on the train and in restaurants and embarrassed the heck out of me by passing it out to whomever she thought needed it, both because we stuck out like a sore thumb and because I knew she was right. She patted cows and cuddled puppies, and hugged people that maybe she shouldn't have, but again, she was probably right.  I was looking forward to so many more adventures with Jody, that I can't help but feel bereft.  My heart goes out to her family and friends, to Danny, her boyfriend, and to those of you who missed out on meeting her.

Jody, wherever this greatest adventure takes you, I wish you peace and am sending my love.

Home, And Back, And Home, And Back for the Holidays

So, I've been a pretty sorry blogger for the most part of fourth quarter.  Life has been crazy at work as we have been implementing several new projects, and I am supporting one of my colleague's team while she is out on maternity leave.  I love it, but I have definitely reached critical mass this quarter, which has made for minimal time to blog.

I was home for Thanksgiving, traveling via Chicago to our Ann Arbor office to work for a few days, and then heading out to California for Thanksgiving week at home, before coming back to India.  Then, it was three weeks of hustle and bustle to finish the quarter and Christmas shopping in India, before hopping a plane on the 23rd to make it home for Christmas.

It was wonderful to see family and friends, though it is phenomenal how fast two weeks goes by.  I spent New Year's up at Tahoe with Lauren, Shannon, and Sheena and had a great time snow plowing down the mountain for a few days.  Now I'm back in Hindustan and missing everyone, at the same time I'm happy to be what now feels like "home."  

Some fleeting observations and things I discovered in the back and forth... forgive me if it's drivel:
  • Starbuck's and a Cinnabon within 30 minutes of landing mean America to me
  • I've been away too long when Meredith has grown so much that she looks like Grace to me (sorry Pete and Ann!)... Between that and banging her head on the ceiling when she was a baby, I think I've blown my honorary auntie status for life!
  • Marilyn is a beautiful pregnant person and I can't wait to meet the baby boy who will have arrived by the time I get home
  • Niels might just about be the cutest thing in the whole wide world, but why should I be surprised, when I love his parents so much?
  • Life has moved on in the year I've been gone, but not as much as one might think
  • ...And I'm reminded, once again, to "count my blessings..."

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Pushkar: A 'Very Special' Place


A few weeks ago, Austin, Oscar, and I headed out for a roadtrip to Pushkar, which is south of Delhi in Rajasthan.  Pushkar is a holy city in the Hindu faith and is most characterized by it's small but lovely lake and ghats where pilgrims go to bathe in the waters.  It's also famous for hosting Asia's largest camel and cattle fair, which was going on while we were there.

I think that Pushkar was a big hit with all of us.  Despite being a fairly major tourist destination both for Hindu pilgrims and for Western tourists, it's charming and essentially is a very small town.  We rolled in late at night and had to call to hotel for a motorcycle escort who guided us through the wending streets to our little hotel by the shores of the lake.  The hotel was bare bones, but clean enough and not too bad given the number of people in town.  We had a rooftop restaurant with a nice view over the lake and town, and were within walking distance of everything.  

On Saturday, we rolled out of bed, had breakfast and went to see the cattle fair.  Let's just say that there were a lot of camels in Pushkar.  And, most of them were being led around by the nose by leathery Rajasthani men with fabulous turbans.  Austin and Devindar sampled camel's milk ice cream and we did some shopping along the main thoroughfare.  Austin and Oscar were over that pretty quickly and soon said they'd meet me and Devindar later at the Pink Floyd Cafe.  I of course proceeded to amuse myself shopping for a couple of hours, and by the time we caught up with the boys, they were happy as clams, each with a 'very special' lassi under their belts and feeling no pain.  Needless to say, our afternoon proceeded at a langourous pace from that point forward.  I was hopped up on antibiotics and figured that adding substance abuse to my list of sins was probably not wise, so I got a spectator's seat for the duration.  The skies over Pushkar boast some of the best stars I've seen in India.  We ate dinner and played cards, watching the sun bury itself in the hills until we were sitting under a sparkling canopy.

On Sunday, the boys couldn't resist the pull of Pink Floyd and its tasty treats, so after breakfast, we detoured to the cafe for more lassi before we hit the road.  The crowds of people coming off of the main ghat were so thick that we had trouble pushing our way through.  I'm still not sure where the flood of people came from or went to, but for a few minutes we were awash in humanity - so very India.

Done with Pushkar, we decided to hit Ajmer before leaving the area.  I have to say now that it was my idea, and probably a bad one.  Ajmer has a famous Sufi shrine that was a pilgrimage destination in the Mughal era.  The complex of temples and shrines is supposed to be impressive and worth seeing, but it was not to be.  The security ladies there are serious.  I apparently had so much contraband in my purse (makeup, an umbrella, etc.) that they would not even consider allowing me in the gates.  Unfortunately, they weren' terribly verbal types, so I discovered this when they bear-hugged me and dragged me out.  Luckily, a quick flash of good sense came before my self-preservation instincts caused me to start using self-defense moves to extricate myself.  For some unknown reason, the only Hindi word that I could remember was "stop," which I settled for screaming at the top of my lungs.  Ugly, but effective.  The whole thing rattled me pretty badly and I'm no much of an Ajmer fan as a result.  But, it was a good reminder the feigning blythe ignorance doesn't always work in these situations.

The rest of our trip home was pretty uneventful, especially after that.  All told, Pushkar was a big hit with the boys, and I myself am a fan.  In the end, it seems like an oasis, with it's tiny jewel of a lake and star-ladened skies.  If you have the opportunity to go, you must.  Take a good book, go to the lake and perform a puja for your heart's desire, or stake out a seat in a rooftop cafe - Life could get a heck of a lot worse.